A bust of the philosopher Epictetus

Memento Vivere

"Remember to Live"

What Is Stoicism?

Stoicism is fundamentally a practical philosophy aimed at transforming mere existence into a well-lived life (Seneca, Moral Letters to Lucilius, Chapter 90). It is not presented as an abstract theoretical exercise, but rather as a robust system for guiding actions and ordering one's life (Seneca, Moral Letters to Lucilius, Chapter 16). At its core, Stoicism offers counsel (Seneca, Moral Letters to Lucilius, Chapter 48) and acts as a practical remedy for life's hardships, distinguishing itself from a source of mental entertainment or pointless debates (Seneca, Moral Letters to Lucilius, Chapter 117).

The main Stoic ideas revolve around the development of an inner state that is resilient and aligned with nature, primarily through the principle of control. This involves understanding what is within one's power and what is not. Key tenets include:

In everyday life, Stoicism can offer assistance by providing a framework to navigate challenges and maintain inner peace, primarily by anchoring the individual to what is within their control. It helps by:

  • Preparing for Adversity: Philosophy is presented as "a preparation against events which may happen" (Epictetus, The Discourses, Book 3, Chapter 10). By mentally rehearsing potential difficulties, one can strengthen the mind against adversity, perhaps by contemplating a powerful idea each day (Seneca, Moral Letters to Lucilius, Chapter 2). This preparation focuses on controlling one's reaction and mindset, regardless of the external event.
  • Managing Anxieties: The philosophy encourages detaching oneself from the trivial anxieties of daily affairs (Seneca, Moral Letters to Lucilius, Chapter 77). By recognizing that worldly gains and losses are ultimately inconsequential in terms of one's inner well-being, one can cultivate inner peace. This involves controlling one's interpretation and value assignment to external circumstances.
  • Guiding Actions and Choices: By treating philosophy as a practical tool, individuals can guide their actions and order their lives (Seneca, Moral Letters to Lucilius, Chapter 16). This is about consciously choosing responses and behaviors based on philosophical principles, rather than being swayed by impulses or external pressures, thereby exercising control over one's agency.

Key Passages

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But what is philosophizing? Is it not a preparation against events which may happen?— The Discourses by Epictetus
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Would you really know what philosophy offers to humanity? Philosophy offers counsel.— Moral Letters to Lucilius by Seneca
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But in life how do I act? At one time I call a thing good, and at another time bad. What is the reason? The contrary to that which is in the case of syllogisms, ignorance and inexperience.— The Discourses by Epictetus

Disclaimer: Article generated using Memento Vivere AI tool, and is grounded solely in the works of Epictetus, Seneca and Marcus Aurelius. For informational purposes only. Not a substitute for professional advice.

App Author’s Personal Take

I was sucked into Stoicism after I found the time (which ironically coincided with the time I had least of it - right after my daughter's birth) to read the first book on Stoicism - Ryan Holiday's "The Daily Stoic".

I didn't read it. I studied it without knowing at that time Epictetus and Seneca themselves would have approved it. Apparently, there is a difference between reading and studying.

The book was waiting to be read. Patiently, as a true Stoic book would. Until student was ready - and the teacher showed up.

I started reading "The Daily Stoic" during my night shifts which started at 11:00 pm. Every day. Until 6:00 am or so.

Most of the time, I had not more than 20-30 minutes at a time to grab the book, read, make notes, and think. Think about how Stoicism applied to me. 20-30 minutes of silence in the middle of the night were followed by relentless screaming. Changing, feeding. For an hour. For two. Who counts? It was my newborn daughter who needed me. Screw sleep. Screw everything else. Things needed to be taken care of.

Barely awake, with a pencil in my hand, I knew my time for peace was limited. I was not in control of my time nor life anymore. As I came to a realization, I never had been.

I got hooked on "doing the right thing." On pragmatic nature of Stoicism. On reason > (math symbol) emotions. On Stoic virtues. On Stoic understanding of happiness. On being a good person. On realization what is, and what is not, in my control. Realizing that Stoicism is a journey, not a destination. That my actions, influenced by feelings (I am a human, after all), is the only thing that I have control over.

Realizing that every day is a new day, and yesterday matters only for the purpose of learning from it to fail better ("Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try again. Fail again. Fail better" - Samuel Beckett, tattooed on Stan Wawrinka's, a prominent tennis player's, forearm). That time is the most precious possession. That I control 99% less than I thought I did.

Pragmatism. That's what drew me to Stoicism. Pragmatism and reason.

I am still failing every single day. As a parent, as a business owner, as a husband, as a son, as a human being. But, with the help of Epictetus, Seneca and Marcus Aurelius, I am failing better.

P.S. I am thankful to Gary, my brother in law, for the gift of "The Daily Stoic", which introduced me to Stoicism.

And thanks to Ryan Holiday for making Stoicism accessible to the masses. Philosophy would have stayed something very distant and foreign to me without "The Daily Stoic."

About the Author

Marty Paukstys is a parent, business owner, science and data enthusiast, avid reader, and a strong believer in lifelong learning - whether for professional or personal growth.

He approaches philosophy the way he approaches work and family life - with curiosity, discipline, and a sense of humor about his own flaws.

Philosophy caught his attention as a practical way to navigate today’s digital noise and clutter. He has been studying Stoicism, particularly Epictetus, Marcus Aurelius and Seneca, along with modern thinkers such as Ryan Holiday and Massimo Pigliucci.

He started Memento Vivere as a personal tool - a natural synergy between modern technology and ancient, timeless wisdom. Now it’s available to anyone interested in Stoicism and personal growth.